Build a Romance Bridge
Have you ever fallen out, as they say, with your partner? You can't seem to pass Go without collecting 200 fresh wounds? Well, its about time you built a bridge and tore down the brick wall. Your tools are these:
ATTITUDE Adjust your attitude first. Get lightened up and perform an about face. Grab a comedy book, watch some cartoons on TV, get your hands on some funny DVDs or videos. Pop out to the shops and buy a couple of funny comics. Get yourself into a better mood and pass it on to your partner. Comedy and laughter are very infectious. Get your partner tuned in with you.
2. FRIENDSHIP Now that you are in good mood go back to being just friends for now. Forget the romance if you want, just focus on being friends; share compliments, do little things for one another, go out to a pub or a party and have fun together. Feel happy in each other's company.
3. RELAX Relax and be yourself. Don't try to force things and don't raise previous problems or arguments. Just be yourself. Dont open up old wounds or let them fester. Forget bad memories and just live for the now.
4. TIME OUT Spend some extra time together, liuke it was during your early courting days. It may not be easy, but who said that life's easy? Get a baby sitter, eat out, go to fast food place or grab a couple of ice cream cones. Go for a walk in the park and feed the ducks. get to know each other all over again. That's the key that opens the door: and it works! With a bit of luck you will find out why you fell for each other the first time and history will repeat itself.
Thats the key. Then you'll remember why you fell for each other in the beginning and history will hopefully repeat itself.
5. COMMUNICATION Take it slow and easy. Don't rush it. Keep away from subjects you know you don't agree upon. Re-learn to communicate with each other properly all over again. Get help if you need it: it's not something to be ashamed about. look up a trusted friend or adviser, a minister or priest, or a certified professional counselor. There's no point in going it alone if you feel it would be better to get help. Identify your weak areas and how to overcome them - look into yourself then plan for future communication difficulties. Don't let them, come as a surprise. Rehearse ways of overcoming them quitly and positively.
6. GOALS Develop goals together so you'll have a direction to head towards. Make sure you write them down just for the two of you. Over time, develop these goals, revise them, cross them off your list, make new ones. The idea is to HAVE agreed goals together and work towards a common goal.
7. SCRAP BOOK Create a memory album together. Add clippings, lettters, photos, menus and anything else that will remind you of the good times. They will be great to look at when the tough times come, and something to form your bridge to romance.
So dont just sit there and sulk. get on your feet and take the first short steps to improve your relationship and let life's problems magically pass by. The bad times will pass into the distant pass and the good times will be your new future. It is difficult to get a relationship going right, but esy to destroy it by refusing to get off your bum and taking the first step. Look into future.
Do you want loneliness, emptiness and regret? Then get started before it is too late to turn.